To be 'seen'

Hiiiii and have a wonderful day (or night) to anyone who is reading this!!!! I've recently noticed that I don't give intros to any of my posts so, here we go! I'm Swara and I love writing and it's a wonderful way for me to express what I feel, what I see and what I want to be seen. So, the name of this post. What's it about? I'm not one who likes summaries, so please read to find out.

Everyone wants to be seen and noticed. I think. Sure, there are people who are never socializing and going incognito not just on the internet, but everywhere. But then there are the Pick-Me's. "Look at me, look at me!!" is the definition of their general behavior. Do they want to be seen? Yes, that's their goal. But a girl who is doing something nice and wants to let people know about it also wants to be seen. But here, the meaning of being seen is... different. Very different. In what way?

The pick-me wants to be seen so that her popularity and social status will go up. In a way it is her/his general status of belonging in the society. On the other hand, the girl I told you about wants to be seen in a different manner. She wants to be acknowledged; she wants her efforts to be recognized. Like I said, BIG difference between the two.

We want to be noticed because we don't want to be left out. Do we? It's some kind of a human characteristic, I feel, wanting attention... Many crave it and also thrive in it. Some are just not used to having attention and believe they're better off without it. This may lead to hardly any socialization which can be a decision they regret in the future. 

Should one seek attention? Yes, but ना कम ना जादा. Not too much. Frankly speaking, there was a time when every single person was an attention seeker. Me too. The time when we were chinte pinte. Toddlers. Sometimes crying or acting surprised or speaking random gibberish or pretending to be hurt, we've all done that. At least one. I remember pretending to fall of the bed resulting in actually doing so and actually crying instead of faking the process. I was fussed over the last time I fell of the bed making me think that there wouldn't be any problem in getting a few more "poor Swara"s or "बाऊ झाला का?"s.  And that just went wrong. Don't blame me, I was... young. Okay, now enough about me and my mistakes that I kind of regret.

Sometimes, to be seen is to want attention in a good way. For example, a whole day of being ignored and living life unnoticed, it feels nice when someone gifts you something, or says something nice, thoughtful and considerate. A sudden spirit awakens, the Spirit Who Feels Wonderful About Our Existence. It's nice to have that spirit just floatin' around. For me, this spirit awakens whenever I get a compliment, I suddenly find a random shirt that suddenly looks good on me, someone praises me or appreciates my effort or when someone simply smiles because of my compliment or nice gesture. 

My point is, we mustn't remain far too silent and in our own world the entire time. If we want the others to know about our skills and talents, sometimes, seeking attention is the only choice. Because if you don't make your presence known, no one bothers in trying to persuade you into doing so. Wanting to be seen is completely normal and it's amazing when you have someone who always 'sees' you. One should always make sure that no one feels left out or lonely. 

And make sure you're seen for who you are and not some fake image of yourself that you think people will like. You have your own personality, and it should be the one you show! You don't have to be perfect while presenting something. Everyone likes different things. It doesn't mean that you should change yourself every time in order to make the person in front of you like your work!! Speaking of perfection, check out this post - Perfection and Influence (which, btw, occasionally stops showing on my blog unless I search it! is it outdated or something?)

If you ever feel that your efforts and talents are going unnoticed, make sure you remember that it's not something to be disheartened by. You may be going unnoticed because you're not with the right people. If so, make it your top priority to find someone like you, someone with familiar interests and someone who will listen. I like birds and take a keen interest in them, but not everybody around me does. Considering the fact that no one at school listens to my bird talk, you can say that I'm not being 'seen'. But my non-school friend listens and takes a lovely interest in whatever is it that I'm rambling about and that's the most wonderful thing. You should be happy that if not all, there is at least one person who listens. So don't feel bad if you're not 'seen' the way you want to be!!

I think I should become a motivational speaker. Maybe not as appealing as the other ideas I have in mind. But it's still an option.

Thank you for reading!!!!!

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