think about it.

 Have you ever done something wholeheartedly, only to have a downpour of negative comments on it? Yeah. That hurts. But what was your reaction? There are usually two types of reactions to such situations: defense or offense. You'd immediately defend yourself, just casually bringing up some excuse or even blaming somebody, just for the sake of stopping the critics. Orrr you'd immediately criticize the critics' work. You might even tell them to shut up and just storm away in a huff.

There are people in this world who get their dose of pleasure when they upset someone. Don't let them, it's only going to hurt you. 

I feel that it is man's (broad perspective, by man I mean both men and women) hereditary characteristic to despise criticism. Sometimes it's completely normal for anyone to do that, because the criticism is not entirely right and is rather meaningless. But there is a chance that they do have a point... Wait, let's quote that bit:

Maybe, just maybe, they have some valid point in what they are saying. Try listening to it.

Am I saying that they are right and you were all along? No!! This is a classic thought that comes into minds of overthinkers (i might be a part of that category). For example, someone tells me that I shouldn't wear some top and I just shrug it off or think to myself that they're just jealous. Then when I go back home, I look at the top. And think. No, I overthink the situation. I point out slightly nonexistent flaws and just come to the conclusion that wearing the top was a very bad decision. I might even think of that incidence for a week! Or more, tbh. 

everyone should have a look at this. [source- pinterest]

Who's at fault? Me, or that someone? Both of us, as a matter of fact. She/he should have tried to explain that a little softly and should have even provided a good reason. I shouldn't have expanded the topic that much, because it was practically wasting some precious time! I have highlighted this in many of my blog posts; everything should be done in the right proportion. ना कम ना जादा can even be the moto of your life! (and when you end up as a super successful person and are asked who told you about this moto of life, I wouldn't mind if you give me some credit 😌) The critic shouldn't rub it in and if the whole point is conveying the message, it wouldn't hurt them if they conveyed it gently.

The truth is no one likes their mistakes to be pointed out. There are people who simply welcome negative comments. Am I asking you to be like them? Am I wanting myself to be like them? Not really. One must embrace their insecurities, and one can also embrace their flaws. Just not to the extreme point. But insecurities and flaws are two very different things, keep that in mind.

What I'm writing now is also meant for myself: Overthinking about things that happened a long time ago and are probably not going to be remembered by anyone, is nothing short of wasting your time. Just let that stuff go!

If someone criticizes you, ask them the reason. They'd either be caught off guard or would be eager to explain. Then all you should do is listen and heed their words. Ask them what they expect the corrections to be. Think about those suggestions. And then you will be having a completely different perspective to the matter. It's okay to be wrong, and it's amazing to accept that you are wrong. 

There is nothing called 'room for improvement' unless and until you decide there is. You have to make that room and then only it is possible for you to improve.

Both the critic and the one being criticized should keep this in mind.  If you ever try keeping a rulebook for life in general, you can include this statement (quoted above) as a rule that you should never forget. 

This brings me to my conclusion. Don't criticize or openly point out mistakes; explain them. This does not mean that you should go too easy on the person at fault; you should just convey the message in a way that no feelings are hurt, every single word is comprehended, and no arguments are sparked.

aaaand that's it. i hope i didn't go too far on any point

thanks for reading !!!!